The verbal attacks were uncalled for. He didn’t say “man are you a tubbo”. He simply asked a question.
Conversation I had with a female coworker
she: “could I borrow a DVD to record something off my computer?”
me: “there are two types of recordable DVD, +R and -R, which do you need?”
she, apparently not knowing which type she needed, started a non-sensical verbal attack on me.
My other female coworker, watching this exchange, finally said, to the woman who asked me to give her a DVD “he’s trying to help, and you’re giving him s4!t”
What would have happened if you asked about DVD-RW and DVD+RW since you can’t really “borrow” a DVD-R or DVD+R since you could only write once to them?
PTSD? Seems like harmless banter, maybe I’m not picking up on the nefarious things she’s implying. Women. I wish they would be more direct with their threats.
“Windows better be fixed, or your balls will be nixed”
I did not have any RWs, only write once discs. It would be useless to give her a disc that would not work for her, as I would be out a disc, and she still would not have recorded what she wanted. In spite of her abuse, I gave her a disc, to get her off my back, and it worked for her, she said.
You haven’t been bullied by women? What she said is a dog whistle. If you had been bullied by women, the message would come through loud and clear.
I don’t really hang out with mafiosos, nor threatening women. Your example is a veiled threat of violence. Happy Spouse, Happy House is not.
I could get on board with the idea that some spouses purposefully make their partner miserable if they don’t get their way. Both men and women do that. Not a recipe for a happy marriage.
On a side note, Bill O’Reilly is a clown. It makes sense that he’d get so upset about a stupid Cheerios commercial given his history of sexually harassing women. Despicable dude.
To me, that quote is more about Karma than a threat of violence. It’s just an updated version of treat others as you wish to be treated. Someone who is happy is more likely to want to do things that make others happy. It’s hard to do anything nice for someone you don’t even want to be around.
IP,
definitely a happy wife and it wasn’t implied threats that got me here, but mutual respect
Can’t help but notice that the earnest discussions leading to alerts about dog whistles and analogies with implied acts of violence concern commercials…which, let’s be honest, have minimal similarities with real like. Probably wouldn’t be very effective if they did. Enough to make a person wonder if folk might be talking about situations and relationships they’re not particularly familiar with.
Getting myself far too much of an education in relationship abuse (psychological and physical, sadly) than I ever expected …or care for
Here’s a nifty little book that sheds a bit of light on a murky topic…impression management (I ordered it along with Wendy’s rec on the Wills, Estates and Trusts book) A psychotherapist friend suggested it along with a couple of others to help fix my naivete on the topic of toxic relationships…but it’s a bit more broad based than that. Applies to techniques that big corporations use to gloss over their malfeasance…and how advertisers and influences can bamboozle us into believing strange ideas. Probably a library get rather than a purchase for the majority of folk…I hope.
