And the Israelis have always wanted freedom from the threat of being attacked, freedom from the threat of being expelled from Israel.
The dilemma is how to find a just and lasting peace that gives both parties what they want. Along with the one thing the Palestinians want that you didn’t mention - the right of return, which has generally been one of the most difficult points in the peace process. It’s hard to ensure Israelis’ security when one of the dominant political forces in the Palestinian areas is Hamas, committed to the expulsion (at best) of Israelis from the area.
What has really shocked progressive Jews (at least among the many I know) is the realization that so many of their progressive allies share that belief. The belief that all Israeli Jews are colonizers - not just the ones trying to settle the West Bank. Many of the Jews killed in the 10/7 attacks were born in Israel, lived within the pre-1967 borders, and (being young) many would have been supporters of justice for Palestinians and bitterly opposed to the current right-wing government. But their slaughter was framed as being part of the resistance to occupation. A lot of progressive Jews I know thought that the beef was with the settlers, and that Israeli Jews would be allowed to stay within whatever borders were agreed on under a two-state solutions. Not that every Jew was a colonizer that had to go.
A Palestine “from the river to the sea” leaves no room for Israel to exist as a second state. And regardless of whether one believes that’s a just outcome, there is no conceivable path to Israel agreeing to that outcome.