I hope the costume department can make some alterations to the jacket – maybe different fasteners or more of a cape style. Does your son need to be lifted out of the chair to put on the jacket and/or are there tubes and ports that need to be moved and checked? What did he do when he went to school and went outside for recess? Was there a personal care aid to help him or did he have special clothing? I think the employer is really trying to make this work.
I’ve watched my friends struggle on when to intervene and when to back off with helping their kids. It’s another level when disabilities are involved. You’re a good father, Peter.
HHP