We had a meeting with the facility staff today.
Mom is no longer coherent enough to stay in Memory Care. She needs to move to a nursing home. As with all healthcare providers, they said “a week, since this is a holiday weekend”. DH and I are going to Norway on July 8 for a week. I was hoping to use next week to get prepared for that.
Dad is…declining. He’s gotten overly familiar with the females and is at risk of being booted. They are going to do a full geriatric workup on him, and they mentioned different drugs to tamp down his libedo. Their statement: “We’d hate to see him transferred to a psychiatric facility, but everyone here has to be safe.”
I’m so so sorry to hear about the further decline of both of your parents! It’s difficult enough coping with this with one parent, but with both simultaneously…
For your mom—is there a nursing home as part of the complex your parents have been in? Or do you first have to begin looking for the one you want for her? I would hope that the staff at the facility can postpone the transfer until you and your husband have returned from your vacation. I understand that her condition now demands more than they can regularly provide. But I’d think—unless I’m not adequately aware of the discrepancy—that they could manage long enough for you to get away, and then do your search.
As for your dad…I wonder what the geriatric workup will find. In particular, I wonder if he has frontal lobe dementia. Loss of inhibitions is a classic component of this type of dementia, and there is a common variant that especially involves loss of sexual inhibitions.
I’m sure they can manage for a couple of weeks. Not to be too glib, but what are they going to do, turn her out onto the street?
They may pump her full of drugs to keep her in bed.
She’ll have to go to another facility. They said they’d give us a list.
It’s impossible to find information via google.
I’m sure they can manage for a couple of weeks…
I hope the knowledge of what you’ll be coming back to won’t negate the benefits of getting away.
About 24 years ago a rehab hospital pushed my mother out on the street
I went up there today and spoke Dad, and afterwards with my brother.
They will put Mom out, call us and tell us to pick her up.
DB and SIL have a neighbor who is a hospice nurse. She let them know today that the facility conversation was a deadline. They will put Mom out, call us and tell us to pick her up.
She also told them that she’s having to look three counties away for nursing home beds, and gave SIL a list.
However, July 10 is the date the EFT processes for their monthly fee. If they take the money they can’t kick her out.
We’re going to see if we can get some sitters to come in to alleviate some of the stress on the facili8ty staff, as that is definitely part of the problem.